I flash the cash rather than flex the plastic, but (gasp!) am I about to break my own frugal rules? Truth is, I’m having a dilemma here – dilemma being a Money Monster sitting on my shoulder, whispering sweet IOUs into my ear – and if you have any thoughts on this one, I’d really like to bend my other ear in your direction.
As you know, my husband and I keep our spending firmly in check. Take our annual holiday: we will be flying out to America in October and it’s going to be another thrifty roadtrip. Credit cards? Pah! The flights were booked and paid for back in February, and now we are saving up spending money ready for when we go. Exemplary, no?
So… friend is getting married overseas in February next year and we have been invited. It isn’t the first time this has happened: we have had a number of such invitations over the past few years and up until now we always declined them, albeit with regret, because it was difficult to justify a jolly to Southeast Asia or Scandinavia or wherever when we were scrimping to pay down debt.
Here’s the rub. This time it’s my very dear friend L and her wonderful fiance getting married, an amazing opportunity to spend two weeks exploring a beautiful part of India and a great deal… and I really want to go. However the flights have to be booked and paid for in the next four months. As for spending and accommodation: with this trip scheduled so soon after our holiday in America and the Christmas break, there is fat chance that we would be able to save enough before went. We are thrilled to have been invited but if we go, this trip will be going straight on the never-never card.
So what would you do?
In the interests of disclosure, I should point out that L is also having a wedding ceremony in England next summer. So although I wouldn’t miss her wedding for the world, if we don’t go to India we won’t miss out on her special day(s) altogether.
As for India: L’s family is from Assam, in northeastern India. Tourism is a growing industry there, but it’s no Goa. L loves the place and it does sound incredible. Read the lavish Wikipedia description and you’ll see what I mean.
L and her mum have secured a very good deal on flights and compiled a fabulous itinerary, which includes:
First and foremost, L’s wedding! (Note: this picture is not her actual wedding!)
A visit to the family tea plantation. I’m a tea freak: this part makes my heart do a happy little skip.
A cruise on the Brahmaputra
(If we’re lucky.)
Also, a detour to visit the Taj Mahal on the way home.
I really want to see L get married, it’s a great deal and a once-in-a-lifetime experience… but but BUT! Should I, just this once, throw caution to the wind?
Help! I know what I want to do and I know what I should do. So what would you do?
UPDATE: Gosh, well you lot certainly helped me make my mind up! Thanks for all your comments – they were really helpful. The upshot is…(drumroll)…We’re going! 🙂